A Sad and Hopeful Day

Today is both an incredibly sad and hopeful day for me. In the wee hours of the morning Susy and Carly pulled out of the driveway in our van to head west to California. Carly starts at Westmont College this week. I am stunned by the range of emotions I feel - from sheer joy to grief, from sadness over the loss I feel to the hope I feel for Carly's bright future.

Age 19 (Germany, August 2010)

       I'm sure it has much to do with the dad-daughter relationship and the fact that Carly is my first born. I never thought I would feel like the dad in the film Father of the Bride but I do. And she is not even getting married! How will I be when that happens? Maybe this is the warm-up.
       This move to Westmont is great for Carly, and I am so proud of her. She is the traveler in our family - born in Pasadena (California), ages 1 through 4 in Budapest, then 10 years in Holland, 5 years in Colorado, and now moving onto new adventures.
       One of my favorite photos of Carly is from our time living in Holland. She is standing on our bike shed "in victory" in the middle of the winter, ready to dive into her world!

Age 12 (Holland)

      Well, Car, this is your time girl! Give yourself to this world, bless people, shine grace as you have in this home!
I Love You - Car Car,
~ your sad and hopeful Dad ~

Facilitating Financial Peace University

Earlier this year I co-facilitated a Financial Peace University class with some folks I have become fast friends with. I'm facilitating another FPU class in Denver beginning September 8th.
       Dave Ramsey has become kind of trendy over the past couple of years. He has a program on Fox Business and has a talk show on the radio. His book, "Total Money Makeover" has been a huge success.
       He teaches about the "seven baby steps" to Financial Peace. They are not rocket science. The steps are pretty basic: have an emergency fund, get rid of credit card debt, save for retirement, give abundantly.
       This is like, "Personal Finance for Dummies." Well, I have concluded that we Americans are flat out dummies when it comes to our personal finances. That's why I lead an FPU class. To help some folks (myself included!) be a little less dumb and little more smart when it comes to resources.
       It's a good practice a couple of times per year to ask ourselves the honest question, "How am I really doing with money?" Rich or poor, we have to be asking this question.

On Consumerism

If we are going to have an indepth, meaningful conversation about stewardship we must firmly address the matter of consumerism in the Western World. It is pervasive, rampant in America. None of us are immune to it. People of faith are consumers just as non-faith people are. We are victims and perpetrators, we spurn things and crave them. 


Check out this 4-minute video about Red Stripe beer and consumerism.



Advertising Noise from PressWhore on Vimeo.

Ted Haggard and Brokenness

I observed from afar (Colorado Springs to Denver at least) the debacle of Ted Haggard some time ago. I have not even begun to make sense of it, although I am writing a manuscript about the underlying issues in "Bad Leadership." So I am wrestling deeply with these examples.


Here is a recent short three-minute video of Haggard. I won't comment on it for now. This is just food for thought. Anyone brave enough to comment on this?



Q IDEAS | Ted and Gayle Haggard from Q Ideas on Vimeo.

Philip Yancey's Upcoming Book

One who has been touched by grace will no longer look on those who stray as "those evil people" or "those poor people who need our help." Nor must we search for signs of "loveworthiness." Grace teaches us that God loves because of who God is, not because of who we are.

~ Philip Yancey, What's So Amazing About Grace

I was thrilled to hear that Philip Yancey's new book will be released in October. It is titled, What Good is God? I have been impacted by most of his books in profound ways, especially The Jesus I Never Knew.

Over the past few years I have had the privilege of getting to know Philip, and his wife Janet. We attend the same church in Colorado. This much I can say about getting to know Philip: As big as his name is, he remains humble and as down-to-earth as can be. No pretense, no ego.

So when I read Philip's words about grace, or forgiveness I know it's the real deal. Philip writes so eloquently about such deep truths because he wrestles with them and seeks to live it out in his faith.

I'm counting the days until I can get the new book!

P.S. - Read an account from Eric Alexander about hiking with Philip in Colorado. Check it out here.

Fidelity in Leadership

"Fidelity" is a word which is out of favor in the 21st century. We know the word INfidelity a lot better. Quite sad really.
       Mr. Webster defines fidelity as: the quality or state of being faithful. Now that rings true. Faithfulness.

       This reminds of my friends Marty and Carty (pictured at right in the middle). They have served with Christian Associates in Europe for 22 years. In a few months they are moving to America.
       2-2 Y-E-A-R-S!!!! Like more than two decades.
       And ... they planted churches in Amsterdam, then Barcelona, and now in Lisbon. That's what I describe at fidelity.
      We had opportunity at Connect (Christian Associates' staff and leadership conference) to hear how God is leading Marty and Carey. We laid hands on them and prayed for them, sending them out on the next step in the journey. I could not be more thankful for these two.
       People often ask, "What is good leadership? What's it look like?"
       It looks like Marty and Carey.

Reflections on Our Time in Europe

In Fulda, Germany (August 2010)

We returned a few days ago from Europe. We had a great time as a family visiting friends in Amsterdam and then spent a week at a retreat center northeast of Frankfurt in Germany.
     Susy and I met 25 years ago in Geneva and sort of "grew up" in Europe. We have walked together along cobblestone roads in many a European city - Budapest, Amsterdam, Barcelona, Venice, Paris, Brussels, among others.
     So it was with some nostalgia that we strolled along the streets of Fulda, Germany one day last week. I had forgotten how relaxing it can be to just wander around, stop and get a cup of coffee, and do some "people watching."
     We even managed to take a "tourist" photo of us in a garden next to the Catholic Church in town.

Stewardship and 100 Who Believe

Some time ago we launched a campaign - hopefully a movement - we call 100 Who Believe. It's not that wildly original, but we hope it will propel Christian Associates into the future work God has for us.
We are asking people to make an investment of $50 or $100 per month. We are looking for 100 people -
* who believe ... that we are on the verge of something explosive in God's economy;
* who believe ... the Church should be different and can be a sent people;
* who believe ... an investment like this is ultimately a spiritual exercise more than a financial one.
Now I mention the 100 Who Believe because we in Christian Associates did something last week at our conference which you don't see in most other Christian agencies.
We asked our leaders and then the rest of our staff to consider being part of the 100 Who Believe. Yes, we asked missionaries who are not exactly rolling in money to contribute, to sacrifice, to be sort of counter-culture for the missionary culture. After all, missionaries receive money; they don't give money! Right? ...
Our Europe Advancement Team leader took the lead in this, sharing that he and his family were stepping up to give. Other staff have done so also.
This is a very big deal. A year ago when we launched this effort I asked the founder of CA, the new President, and the Operations Team Leader if they and their families would give to the 100 Who Believe as a kind of "statement of faith." All of them began to give, as did my family.
Let's face it - $50 is not a lot of money. Only a little more than a mustard seed. But you know what Jesus said about mustard seeds?


So I am asking everyone and anyone who has a heart for something explosive to happen for the Kingdom to give to the 100 Who Believe. If you are interested go to: www.christianassociates.org/Table/Campaigns and click on the "Give Now" button in the bottom right of the page.

Proud to be a Parent of a TCK

Third Culture Kids - quite the unique bunch. My kids are TCKs. What is it? Here's a definition:
David Pollack says, "TCK refers to someone who, as a child, has spent a significant period of time in one or more culture(s) other than his or her own, thus integrating elements of those cultures and their own birth culture, into a third culture." Third Culture Kids are also referred to as Global Nomads.
So why I am writing about this? We just returned from Christian Associates' CONNECT conference. Susy and I facilitated an Exchange session on raising Third Culture Kids. The really cool part of it was that 6 TCKs (including Carly) came to the session and parents asked them all sorts of questions for the hour. We were really proud of them as they processed about their experiences and the rich lives they all lead!
TCKs navigate a lot of things - constant transition, a lack of belonging in one place, the depth of relationship with other TCKs where they find themselves "at home." They are a unique breed of person. Well done, Carly and Steven and the other CA kids!

Carly (in black jacket, third from left) with other TCKs at Christian Associates' CONNECT conference in Germany last week.

Seminars at Connect

I am at the Christian Associates CONNECT conference in Germany this week. At the moment I'm sitting in one of the seminars, entitled, "How to handle your money during tight times." It's an hour long session.

George Steinbrenner and John Wooden meet in Heaven

     I don't exactly know what heaven will be like, and I don't exactly know who will be there. But I wonder what it was like when George Steinbrenner died 40 days after John Wooden. Did they meet in Heaven? What might they have said to each other?

Coach John Wooden

     Two "success" sports figures. Immensely successful. One known as a man with great humility. The other known for his humbrus and self-absorption.
     Wooden was the man who would have been just as content if he had never won a national basketball championship. His 10 titles with the UCLA Bruins is unmatched.
     John Wooden was always known as "coach." That's how he will be remembered.

Boss: George Steinbrenner

     Steinbrenner was the man who would stop at nothing for the next championship. He would sacrifice people, the team, and his own integrity to grasp the next championship ring. His New York Yankees won 7 World Championships and 11 Pennants in his tenure os owner of the team. That was not enough to George.
     George Steinbrenner was always known as "boss." That's how he will be remembered.


(From the Preface of a manuscript I am writing on moral leadership.)

The Newmans Back in Amsterdam!

Steven, Susy, and Carly at Rijksmuseum in Amsterdam.

My family is in Amsterdam for the week. I arrived today after being in Germany for a couple of days. Susy and the kids have been here for a week already.


This weekend we are seeing a bunch of great friends. I arrived just in time Friday to join the birthday party for our friend Nico. WONDERFUL TIME!


CORRECTION (5 hours after original post): The photo was taken in front of the Rijksmuseum rather than Central Station. I think I need to visit Amsterdam more often so I know what I am talking about! Ha.

Airline Barf Bags

I flew on US Airways to Frankfurst yesterday/today. A while ago US Airways allowed CBS TV to advertise on the barf bags in their airplanes. Now how stupid is that? A US Airways spokesman said this at the time:
      "The airsick bag is not used like it was in the past -- primarily with turbo-prop aircraft and cabins that weren't pressurized -- so the negative connotation of the sick sack has gone away."
      I don't know about you, but when I got on the plane from Philadelphia to Frankfurt and saw the barf bag all I could think was, "Hope I don't have to barf into that thing."
      By the way, I think one of the most awkward moments of life is after you barf into one of those bags and then call the flight attendant to give her/him the bags and its content. What do you say? "Here's my vomit. Could you throw it away for me?"

Today is a Travel Day

I've got a long day coming up. Morning flight from Denver to Philadelphia, a few hours in Philly, then flight to Frankfurt, Germany. I arrive at 10am local time, 2 in the morning back in Denver.
       I'm much more motivated about traveling, because my family is already in Europe and I will see them Friday night in Amsterdam.
       For the next week I will post from Europe. Check back. It should be fun.

A Philanthropic GIANT

Warren Buffett is one of the heroes of the philanthropic world. I have a keen interest in stewardship and philanthropy. Studies show that wealthy people in the USA (those earning more than $200,000 per year) give less than 2% of their wealth away. Warren Buffett is a radical exception.

     Here is the the beginning of his "Philanthropic Pledge" which became public earlier this year:

    In 2006, I made a commitment to gradually give all of my Berkshire Hathaway stock to philanthropic foundations. I couldn't be happier with that decision.

    Now, Bill and Melinda Gates and I are asking hundreds of rich Americans to pledge at least 50% of their wealth to charity.

    So I think it is fitting that I reiterate my intentions and explain the thinking that lies behind them.

    First, my pledge: More than 99% of my wealth will go to philanthropy during my lifetime or at death. Measured by dollars, this commitment is large. In a comparative sense, though, many individuals give more to others every day. Millions of people who regularly contribute to churches, schools, and other organizations thereby relinquish the use of funds that would otherwise benefit their own families. The dollars these people drop into a collection plate or give to United Way mean forgone movies, dinners out, or other personal pleasures.

    In contrast, my family and I will give up nothing we need or want by fulfilling this 99% pledge.

Well done, Mr. Buffett. May I have one ounce as much generosity as you display.